The People Who Need Love The Most Are The Hardest To Love

“The people who need love the most are the hardest to love.” Not sure who said this one first, but it was popularized in the Peaceful Warrior book and movie.  If you ever find yourself r-illustr-big-big-guycringing at hanging out with someone, or just being in the presence of someone makes you want to run for the hills, there’s a good chance they simply didn’t get much love and are desperate for approval.  They may even act out with vengeance, violence or curse profanities at you, but at the end of the day the only thing that matters is what meaning we give to these expressions.

So the next time someone clearly acts like a horrible person towards you for no apparent reason, you should know that they are on some level.. unloved!  With this in mind it may be easier to actually reach out and say: “How are you?” or “Is there anything I can do for you?” or maybe you just give them a hug.  If you do, you’ll most likely see a totally different reaction.

This reminds me of a story a friend of mine named Anthony who was held up at gunpoint in an alley in Los Angeles by a couple homeless guys.  Instead of reacting he realized these guys were unloved and said something to the effect of:  “It must be really difficult having to get by every day.”  By engaging with his heart not his fists, he was able to reach the “Buddha Nature” of these men and they let him go with no robbery.   Of course the Buddha Nature is the 10th world of the 10 worlds which we will leave for another blog post.  Peace and love my friends.  -C


Wednesday Wisdom #42
Every Wednesday I post a killer quote to keep you at the top of your game!

When great evil occurs, great good follows

“When great evil occurs, great good follows” – Nichiren Daishoninknight-dragon

On this very auspicious day (post election day) where we now find ourselves in the USA being led by a shallow man named Donald Trump who has known tendencies towards racism, sexism and blatant arrogance, I thought long and hard before posting today’s Wednesday Wisdom.

It would be really easy to point fingers, blame people, get angry and depressed, but like Nichiren Daishonin, the great Buddhist Sage from Japan once said: ”

“Great events never have minor omens. When great evil occurs, great good follows. Since great slander already exists in our land, the great correct Law will spread without fail. What could any of you have to lament? Even if you are not the Venerable Mahākāshyapa, you should all perform a dance. Even if you are not Shāriputra, you should leap up and dance. When Bodhisattva Superior Practices emerged from the earth, did he not emerge dancing? And when Bodhisattva Universal Worthy arrived, the ground shook in six different ways.”

Ok even if you don’t know much about the Buddhist cannon of sutras, its clear Nichiren is telling us that something fantastic is happening, something to sing dance and celebrate.  What  you say… “Sing Dance, Celebrate” we are about to enter armageddon with walls, burning muslims and trillions in federal debt.

Yes, celebrate! Because guess what, had the election been won by Clinton, the Trumpeters would have declared revolution and really burned down the world.  Why… because these are shallow people, who simply don’t have the capacity or foresight to see the opportunity for growth, for the light at the end of the tunnel.  All they see is loss, scarcity and vengeance.

Ok so now we, the leaders of the spiritual and evolved, we have an unprecedented opportunity to dig in deep and really search our souls.  Yes there will be some pain, but we will emerge twice as strong, twice as wise, twice as compassionate and we will again change the tide with monumental achievements of valor and humanitarianism.

I’ll leave you with one more deep ass thought to ponder.  Also from the Buddhist cannon, the oneness of good and evil is a central concept in the Lotus Sutra taught by Shakyamuni Buddha during the last 10 years of his life.  Basically, evil is necessary and it serves a purpose.  It allows good to arise and vanquish evil, that is its purpose.  Without evil we would not be inspired to rise up, maximize our capacity and see how freaking amazing we are, how tremendous our power is when we are guided by something larger that us, which serves the greater good.

Now go out and vanquish evil!

Wednesday Wisdom #41
Every Wednesday I post a killer quote to keep you at the top of your game!

None is stronger than a person who has faced and triumphed over painful hardships

“None is stronger than a person who has faced and triumphed over painful hardships. Such a person can become a real friend and ally to those who are truly suffering.” – Daisaku Ikeda

As I get older and wiser, I often find myself searching for meaning in all the incredible hardships of my life. Although I have a broad spectrum of pursuits as an entrepreneur, being a musician could arguable be one of the most difficult careers of all time.

At times I would compare myself to a chum from school days who just rolled through life without a whole lot of struggles and seemed to come out smelling like roses… got the hot wife, got loads of loot in the bank, you know all those Western versions of happiness, which experienced myself in my twenties during a stint as a vulture venture capitalist.

But when I took a deeper look at my buddy, and many others who appear to have it all, I notice things aren’t so rosy after all. In fact the mere absence of struggle has a knack for making people really weak in the face of temptation like adultery, drugs and slander.

But what I realized is that when you’ve really struggled and triumphed over massive challenges, you peel away some of those superficial layers and see the true meaning of life, which is to grow and expand beyond the reach of your struggles; to become undefeatable in the face of adversity. And live your life for the greater good.

What happens after years of this, if you haven’t already experienced it, is when you encounter these people who appear to have it all figured out, you see right through the illusion to the pain and emptiness that lies deep within the confines of a tarnished mirror. You see that although they may not be evolving, they have the potential to polish their mirror and become truly happy. At that point all you can do is lead by example and pray for their awakening.

Wednesday Wisdom #41
Every Wednesday I post a killer quote to keep you at the top of your game!