“The people who need love the most are the hardest to love.” Not sure who said this one first, but it was popularized in the Peaceful Warrior book and movie. If you ever find yourself cringing at hanging out with someone, or just being in the presence of someone makes you want to run for the hills, there’s a good chance they simply didn’t get much love and are desperate for approval. They may even act out with vengeance, violence or curse profanities at you, but at the end of the day the only thing that matters is what meaning we give to these expressions.
So the next time someone clearly acts like a horrible person towards you for no apparent reason, you should know that they are on some level.. unloved! With this in mind it may be easier to actually reach out and say: “How are you?” or “Is there anything I can do for you?” or maybe you just give them a hug. If you do, you’ll most likely see a totally different reaction.
This reminds me of a story a friend of mine named Anthony who was held up at gunpoint in an alley in Los Angeles by a couple homeless guys. Instead of reacting he realized these guys were unloved and said something to the effect of: “It must be really difficult having to get by every day.” By engaging with his heart not his fists, he was able to reach the “Buddha Nature” of these men and they let him go with no robbery. Of course the Buddha Nature is the 10th world of the 10 worlds which we will leave for another blog post. Peace and love my friends. -C
Wednesday Wisdom #42
Every Wednesday I post a killer quote to keep you at the top of your game!