When it comes to interpersonal Communication nothing can be more challenging when you lack self-confidence. What’s interesting about interpersonal communication is that it challenges us to face our own insecurities. Psychologically speaking we’ve heard of the term called projection. This is when someone accuses you of doing something, but they’re actually doing it to you. For example, I had a girlfriend who used to get really drunk mostly on the weekend (Thank God) and behave like a crazed person. One night when I tried to embrace her and take her home she called me a crazy monster. But nothing could have been further from the truth. She was merely projecting what she felt about herself on me.
If you lack self-confidence at a time when someone is projecting on you, then chances are you will take it personally. But on the flipside, if you know how to become confident, you will most likely not react and notice this is simply a projection from someone who is very insecure about themselves.
Of course, the big challenge here is how to improve your self-esteem and build your confidence. This is not such an easy task. The challenges lie deep within our belief systems created over decades of time where we have been conditioned to think and believe certain things based on our previous experience. Obviously, it took a long time to create negative anchors and disempowering beliefs and it will accordingly take a good chunk of time to reverse those.
Part and parcel to becoming more confident is self-love. If you think about it, when you really love yourself you won’t need to lash out against others and when someone lashes out at you, you’ll find it perplexing or perhaps even odd. One simple tool to use in building self-love is to take a few minutes to look in the mirror and tell yourself, “I love you (Your name)” over and over until it starts to resonate out of the discomfort zone and into the feel-good zone. Of course, this may sound ridiculous, but… It works! Try it and see for yourself.
“Even the largest avalanche is triggered by small things.” – Vernor Vinge (American science fiction author)
“Great things are not done by impulse, but by a series of small things brought together.” – George Eliot (novelist, poet, journalist, translator and one of the leading writers of the Victorian era)
Similar to the game “Dominos”, The Domino Strategy shows how a very small amount of energy can be converted into something 1,000 times or even a billion times larger.
For example, a scientist demonstrated with only 13 dominoes, how he could create two billion times amplification in energy. The first domino was just 5 millimeters tall, but the 13th Domino, the largest, weighed 100 pounds and was more than a meter tall. If he added 16 more dominoes, there would be enough force to knock over the Empire State Building.
Starting small using the domino effect translates into gaining massive results in every area of life including wealth, health, and relationships and has been responsible for some of the greatest fortunes ever built in history. Start small and resist the temptation to go big or you will end up at home on the couch defeated, literally!
“Fools multiply when wise men are silent.” Nelson Mandela
When was the last time you spoke up against something you knew was wrong? Can you remember?
I recently watched a video on the most massive cover up by the military industrial complex in history called Unacknowledged with Dr Stephen Grier. The film is about the cover up of alien presence on earth and how ridiculous it is that the government has gone to extreme lengths to cover it up, when there is ZERO evidence that aliens propose a threat. In fact, the opposite is true, that the aliens who have visited are here to actually protect us from ourselves and potential mass extinction with nuclear weapons. If you don’t believe me just watch the documentary.
The most interesting thing in the whole film was what Dr. Grier said about these people he spoke to who were high ranking officials in military and government who were all supposedly trying to solve the problem. They were all super pussies! Yeah, basically none of these people had the balls/ovaries or the confidence to stand up and stop this ridiculous cover up that we pour roughly 50 billion dollars into every year, which we could be using to solve poverty and pollution. Instead our world, (predominantly the USA) is overrun by fools, clearly evidenced in the guy at the top “Chump.”
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